The basic way to have a successful relationship with anyone is communication. It is the foundation of any friendship and relationship. However, when you are dealing with the opposite sex we assume that we are experts in the field of successful communication.We should know that if we think we are masters at communicating then we are conjuring up fictitious thoughts inside our heads. Communication should seem so basic to men, yet they fail to understand us or maybe we just do not execute it properly. I am going to shed some light on the male brain a bit and give them tips as well as inform them on how a woman thinks.
Tip 1: Men be ACTIVE LISTENERS!!
Let her tell you what she has on her mind because she is telling you for a reason. With that being said, being patient while listening is the key to having a successful outcome to your conversation. While you are being patient you need to focus on not just what she is telling you, but her gestures as well. Active listening is not just being attentive, but it is also watching her body language as well as looking into her eyes. I know that you may want to control the conversation, but sometimes all we want is someone to listen and give us some feedback when it is all said and done.
Tip 2: Ask her how her day was.
We understand that after a long day all you want to do is sit on the couch, put on the game, and crack open a beer. We had a long day too and we want to decompress just as much as you do. However, most women want to immediately call or talk to you face-to-face when we get home so we can talk about our day. It makes us feel really good when you ask us just how we are or how our day was.
Tip 3: Know how and what to say.
When we talk about something we are not always looking for a solution, but we just want someone to understand what we are feeling. Just listen to her as she rants on and on about her grandmother’s dog and ends up going on different tangents about her grandmother’s neighbor’s dog. Just remember, be wise on how much you say and what you say to a woman.
Tip 4: We think long and hard about a serious conversation we want to have.
We think long, hard, and we even ask our friends for advice because we want the conversation to go well. We basically have our entire conversation planned out how exactly what we want it to go. If you wonder why a woman veers from what you just said it is because that point you are trying to make she did not go over in her head.
Tip 5: Women are not DIRECT.
Women do not like to be rushed. We are unable to think of things to say on the spot, but apparently you are able to conjure up words out of thin air. Like I stated in tip number four we think long and hard about our conversations. When you all of a sudden spring something onto a female and you do not receive the best answer or maybe a long pause it is because we have not had time to think about it. Women need to think sometimes. We do beat around the bush.
Tip 6: We do not do selective hearing.
We do not like to repeat ourselves and it is frustrating when you “choose” when you want to listen to us. A man all of a sudden cannot hear a woman’s voice because apparently their left-brain is not functioning at the moment. We would appreciate if you would get the left side of your brain into gear because we love when you pay attention and actually take in everything that we say.
Tip 7: When a woman wants to talk, she is telling you that she wants to become a close one to you.
The female race could truly surpass the male race in that competition. When a woman says that she wants to talk to you that does not mean that something is wrong. Women just want to talk and become closer. We like to dig deeper into our relationships instead of always talking about the surface level questions. If a woman wants to talk to you, then you should take that as a compliment because she is letting you inside of her thoughts.
Tip 8: Even after you say, “I love you” we are still going to be cheesy!
We take those words to our heart and we feel, that now, we know how you feel; we can completely let our guards down. Now, when we do that there will be an outpour of our emotions and many cheesy conversations. We still want you to tell us how you feel even after you say those three important words to us. We like to know your thoughts and the way that you are feeling. We do not consider it a weakness when you tell us how you are feeling, but rather a blanket of happiness covers us.
